Thursday, March 6, 2025

The story of a garden -



. . . . . . and then there's the weather! 
We are at the mercy of the rain, winds, biting cold, 
and blazing sun!

Not too long after arriving in the USA many, many years ago, I discovered homes stood on a 'lot' which consisted of a front and back yard with a house set usually in the center.  The word garden was not used so much out in the burgeoning suburbs - it was yard work, go play in the yard, back yard barbecue or cookout, park in the front yard, "what a pretty yard", "Yard of the Month" signs . . . . . . and so on.  

Being English, I thought then, and still do, that a garden was far removed from the connotation of a yard which, to me, was more like a bleak school yard, ironworks yard, factory yard, builder's yard, logging yard, even prison yard - you get the idea!  A yard was a barren expanse of concrete or dirt. Hardscaping at its worse . . . . . ugly, treeless, with perhaps touches of dirty green weeds growing between the cracks, metal fencing, rolled barbed wire, snarling dogs, armed guards!!!

So, we live here in our small house, our 'cottage', surrounded by a garden. The front garden you've seen in my photos often, and at every season, and which I like to think is well-cared for.  It has changed a lot over the years regarding plantings. This was a farm at one time - we even dug up a tractor seat - and the trees remaining are quite massive. 


Getting back to the back garden. You can see in the collage photos of a few years back below with work underway to restore/rework what we had allowed to happen over the past 10 years.  

blame much of it on being away traveling the world!  Also our sometimes loss of physical ability - aging backs, knees, and shoulders that no longer always work the way we would like. Ivy and vinca had a literal field day smothering everything, the open area once a lawn, the side and back flower beds, the fence, the corner behind the potting shed. For a while it looked quite lovely and I named it my 'secret garden'. I would sit in the gazebo enjoying the encroaching greenness of the now huge azalea bushes, the towering privets holding gently formed bird nests, the wisteria waving from the arbor built to hold it and now grasping out, clinging to and 
climbing surrounding trees.  


Over those years I stopped cutting back the jasmine, honeysuckle and rambling roses on the back fence as they looked so beautiful. The squirrel population grew, a few cute as a button chipmunks arrived, the rabbits hopped out from the undergrowth, along with lesser favorites such as grey foxes, opossums, raccoons, mice, feral cats. . . . . . .and the ever hungry deer family, along with a coyote now and then! A few huge, but thankfully non-venomous snakes slithered by, but I'm certain there were many poisonous copperheads hiding in that ivy!  It's the snakes and the mosquitoes that scare me. My beautiful garden birds I love the most and whom I want to continue to visit to feed, sing and nest in my garden.


This is a post I found in my my drafts this morning!  No time to fully update it right now but thought I would glance through it and then post it at long last as I just don't have time to write a new one!  We are hiring help with the garden this month as everything is becoming overgrown somewhat and we can't do it ourselves. Obviously these older photos were taken in full blown springtimes of the past. Right now most things are still sleeping or just peeking through......and the deck was replaced around this time last year so looks a lot more spiffy!!!!

How does your garden grow?  




Wednesday, February 26, 2025

Parallel Lines - An Anniversary

 



Life doesn't always remain on the straight and narrow.
Curves are thrown.
Corners insist on making turns.
Lines spread wider, or narrower.  
Collisions occur.
Predictions don't always come true.
Life is not always how you want it.
Youth is precious.
Aging is not always fun.
There's no place like home.



Growing old takes courage. A lot of courage. Older adults can be overwhelmed by uncertainties.The future sometimes looks bleak. 'Live and let live' is not easy when all around seems to be falling apart and one feels that the end is perhaps nearer than once thought. It may be you, your spouse or partner, a family member, your best friend or neighbor. Eventually we each are faced with circumstances that we may feel unable to manage. We may struggle to adapt and move forward. We help in many different ways best we can. We don't lose hope. We encourage with words and deeds. We smile, laugh, pray.........and sometimes cry when nobody can see us. Life is so unpredictable. We don't plan to get old. We have to learn to adapt, to live one day at a time, and be grateful for kind family and friends. We do what we are still able to do no matter how insignificant those small things are, or how different they may be from what we were used to doing in those magical younger years.



The sun came up this morning and the first thing I noticed was its warmth and welcome in the upstairs hall. I took this photo, came down to my laptop, flipped open the cover, grabbed a cup of coffee and knew this was the day I would at last come back here.

Sadly, it's been far too long since I posted here but as my eighteenth year of blogging will arrive tomorrow I'm doing this quick post before this becomes another crazy day and the laptop remains closed down.

Bob's health issues continue. He completed the 2.5 months of chemo following major surgery, but the follow up scans show the cancer has reared its ugly head and spread. Following another surgery recently we are now awaiting a new treatment plan. We will continue to fight together in hopes we can beat this.......and continue aging happily and with gratitude for the years yet to come.

Please keep Bob in your thoughts and prayers.  Thank you dear friends and readers.

Saturday, December 21, 2024

A Different December -



Les Mois - Décembre
Eugène Samuel Grasset
1845-1917


Cold nights and mornings now.  
The Winter Solstice is today and it will be Christmas in
 a few days.  Where has the time gone?
This year has been impacted by Bob's ongoing health issues
 and he's not out of the woods yet.



Northern Mockingbird



Very little holiday decorating done this year due to time constraints.
Trying to get some baking started now. It will be a rather quiet time
 at Christmas.
Bob returns for another chemo infusion on Boxing Day - Dec. 26 
(usually my favorite day of the year!). As I said, it's definitely a very
 different Christmas this time around.


Sending best wishes to you and your families - have a joyful holiday.
I plan to come back here more frequently once Bob's treatment is 
completed. I've really missed everyone's news.

Happy Christmas to all.

Mary